Dear Youth moments readers,
So I believe that even as they are extrovert and introverts there are also ambiverts. There are so many persons, me inclusive who are introverts and as though a solitudinarian. One of the years, someone had knocked on my door and whispered through my window
"please do come out, loneliness can kill"
*Hands up* trust me I wasn't lonely, I was just breathing fairly in my own little space.
The Webster dictionary defines solitude as a state of "being alone or kept apart from others" and loneliness as "not being in the company of others", from both definitions let's draw the clauses "kept apart from others" and "not being in the company of others". These clauses here, clearly stating the obvious.
Someone is likened to be in his/her own space, away from distractions, petty talks, admiring his/her own privacy, this is not seen as loneliness cause they are in their own space they are not bored, their energy is reserved, free thinking / thoughts and definitely serial smiles over every beautiful thoughts, sometimes this moment is very essential to most factions of humans.
They just want to be free from hate, gossips, the stress of life, they just want to birth new ideas, they actually use this time to have a deep thought about themselves, their marriages, education and eventually the future. Here you are intentionally kept apart from the others, you decided to walk into the room and shut the door. This state flourishes creativity and ideas and enables you to reach deep within yourself and your imagination a way that is not possible to attain around others.
Loneliness a clear distinct opposite which denotes - not being in the company of others, do we say forced-isolation here?. I have decided to be on my own is totally different from there is no one here to talk with. it can also be a state of boredom, *don't give me that look!*. Jane, Recheal and I co-habits and just yesterday Jane left and so did Racheal, I do not know this vicinity so well, and so I've decided to be indoors, I am indoor now but no one is currently online to chat with, the fuel got drained last night and no money for re-fueling and therefore, I can't turn on the television set because there is no electricity as well. Now, I'm alone, I am lonely, I am in need of others who i am temporarily unreach to. I can't think here, I need to sleep to kill this time, I am just bored, some may choose to go see a movie, if there is mula(money) in the pocket oo or call a friend for a moment together. Now you see, there is a correlation between this two "being solitude and lonely".
Back to my introductory story, believe me I wasn't lonely, yes!! I was alone but not lonely I was just journeying in my space and birthing new ideas.
Psychologically the need to be alone and to engage others are keys to happiness so you need to balance the equation to garnish your happiness.
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